Hwasin: Controller of the Heart
If you do it again, I might break your legs.
[Henpecked husbands, stand up!]
I should use that trick.
- I could've said something cool. - Even when you do, it's so so.
Don't you think I might be a little better?
She didn't have to do that.
I need that set up for later...
Women scare me.
- Where are you? - It's because of the woman.
It's something women made up.
[Brave men talk without fear!]
What's that?
- Yes, let's get back on air. - Try some.
[Experts in the war of nerves]
Please participate in the survey.
You know you can participate in the survey, right?
Participate in the survey right now please.
You can be a master of hearts and minds.
Hwasin takes a clear look into people's thoughts and feelings.
- Please! - Show us the problem!
[Park Gyu Ri, Kim Bum Soo, Kim Eung Soo, Kim Tae Woo]
[Recognizing a problem]
[Today's place is...]
[A hospital?!]
Oh my, my...
- It's killing me. - Sweetie, are you all right?
I feel a little better since I get to see you, Hee Sun.
Why would you get sick? It makes Hee Sun feel sad...
Okay, I'll get well soon for you, Hee Sun.
I feel sad because my sweetie is sick.
[The day Hee Sun feel sad because his sweetie is sick]
What do I do?
[Hee Sun is scared, cutie pie]
I feel sick too.
[Taking a photo of proof?!]
Oh my gosh.
Wait a minute... What are you doing?
I'm taking a photo to prove that I visited you, Sweetie.
'The day I came to visit my sweetie in the hospital. So sad.' Okay.
- Seriously... - Are you feeling really okay, Sweetie?
I hope I got sick instead of you.
But the doctor told me that it's okay for me to have solid foods starting today.
- Let me eat that. - Oh, okay.
Wait! Wait.
- Oh my, oh my. - What?
[The first time I've ever seen hospital food!]
- Why take a picture of this? - I write blogs on delicious food, you know.
That's so annoying.
I heard hospital food is so delicious.
Wait a second. Oh wow. I hear some people get hospitalized here just for their food.
What? That's -- Who in the world would do that?
Oh my, oh my, their kimchi is extremely fresh.
Oh my!
[And Dong Yup becomes extremely tired]
Sweetie, Sweetie. Hurry up and get a spoonful. Hurry.
- Why? - And say, 'It's the best!'
What? Why --
- Hurry. Say, 'Ah.' - Mr. Shin.
Mr. Shin, how do you feel today?
Oh, oh, oh! Oh, what am I going to do?
Take a picture of us.
- With me? - Yes, my ideal man always has been a doctor.
Your gown looks so cool!
Her ideal man!
Unbelievable.
Your gown looks so cool!
- Your ideal man has been a... - Come, hurry and sit.
Hurry and sit down on the floor!
Yes, yes, yes.
Okay, ready.
He's so charming.
[Feels alienated due to her hobby]
- Please email to me. - Okay, I will.
- Doctor. How's my condition today? - It's good, good.
Doctor...
My sweetie's IV drip.
What the heck are you doing?
[Rolls down]
My sweetie's bed.
Oh please. Please stop doing that!
[Your girlfriend's scary obsession with taking pictures!]
Even for a super macho man who fears nothing
Even he has moments that scare him to death.
The moments my woman appears scarier than a monster.
Everyone. When was that moment?
[We look into the minds of others]
- Hee Sun was amazing. - Yes, she was.
She does her character acting here at Hwasin.
[And she's isn't guilty for that]
It was so scary.
The times my girlfriend or wife appears scarier than a monster.
Guess the highest voted answer in each age range.
Today's show is a must watch for ladies.
You'll learn how often your men think that way.
Today, we have two goddesses with us.
There can't be two goddesses but
I think she look much prettier in person.
But how could I compare myself to you?
- A goddess herself. - Thanks.
This makes me scared about women too.
- You know -- - I think they are so good at lying.
Gyu Ri, what were you really thinking?
I need to set it up like this in order to...
[Shaking...]
Is it okay to make someone cry on air?
[Today's theme is 'When my woman is scarier than a monster...']
- Eung Soo, is this the first time you met Hee Sun? - Yes it is.
I've been in about 50 movies but never had a chance to work with her.
You worked with so many beautiful actresses, right? How is she?
Out of every beautiful actress that I've worked with, she's the most beautiful.
By the end of the recording, they say, 'She's so reckless!'
Wait and taste what kind of things she says.
[You wait and taste it too, viewers!]
There are three married men among us.
Bum Soo is single.
Bum Soo, you can think back to the times when felt afraid of your girlfriend.
In my case, I love to exercise.
I was so passionate about playing soccer.
- He looks like he might be great at it. - I do look like that.
So they put me on the starting roster, and after I played a game
they found that my skills were out of this world.
So they took me out of the starting line up right away.
Once there was a soccer game where they had us team up as couples.
- Girlfriends were on your team too? - You and your girlfriend on the same team.
And my girlfriend on that day
she was dribbling the ball across the field.
She didn't have to go that far...
but she dribbled past someone.
[She transformed into Lionel Messi?]
- Like, like this. - Like that.
Putting a spin on her free-kick.
A banana kick.
She was pushing aside the men with her shoulder.
And she wasn't losing the battle.
- Must have shocked you. - Yes, she was probably laughing at me.
She saw it every time I got pushed aside and fell down.
Because I have a small body frame, I always get shoved aside and fall.
How was her physique?
Come to think of it. I think she was pudgy.
I didn't notice that before but I think she had a strong body frame.
- Wondering if she's a female? - Wondering how could that be...
- How is your athleticism, Hee Sun? - I was on this show before.
- Dream Team? - Yes, a long time away.
In Dream Team, I competed against college students majoring in physical education.
I won first place.
- In which one? - The high jump.
- You run and do this. - Ah, the high jump.
- Did you do the Fosbury flop? - Yes.
You used the Fosbury flop?
The last competitor in Dream Team, Kim Hee Sun!
A pretty woodpecker.
[Jumps way up there!]
Will she clear it?
[So proud of you, Kim Hee Sun!]
Wow, it's amazing.
The Fosbury flop is hard to do.
[When my woman appears scarier than a monster!]
When I found out she's stronger than me.
[When she's more athletic than I am]
[Out of ranking]
[A wig?]
- I didn't see it! - Was it good?
[Talking about thick-boned women...]
She and I stood in front of a punching machine.
She was supposed to punch it like this but
- She gave it a snap like this. - And holding her wrist like this.
- Hee Sun knows how to do that. - Using her whole body.
I heard you're supposed to make her fist like this, right?
When making a fist, like this.
Not like this.
Women grab your hair like this.
[Pulling your hair out]
To avoid someone grabbing your hair in fights, put a lot of hairpins in your hair.
[Fight technique #1: Use hairpins]
Hee Sun's fight know-how: Use your hairpins.
- To deter someone from grabbing your hair. - If you put about 100 hairpins...
- If you have long hair, it's a disadvantage. - So you move like this.
Once they grab your hair, the game is over.
When you get into fights while wearing a skirt, do you tie it up?
- Just need a safety pin. - A safety pin.
- You use a safety pin in the middle. - Then the skirt become shorts.
[Nodding 100 times]
Do girls also fight like boys do in school?
Wow, fascinating.
I had to put them on at every break.
[She's talented in putting on hair pins]
After every class, I would put them on.
So that they won't grab my hair.
Why didn't you just wear a shower cap on your way to school?
Do you sometimes feel as if she's... if not a monster...
Not just sometimes.
It's every single moment.
[He's so funny]
It's the most intimate relationship. There isn't anything we don't know about each other.
No matter how I try to lie, she knows me inside and out.
No matter what I do, I cannot trick her.
When there are times that I must lie to her, then...
the only solution is money.
What?
I give her a lot of money.
That really is the fastest way.
Right, isn't it? Money is the fastest solution.
- As settlement money? - As compensation.
I did find out that money is great.
It puts an end to every conflict.
It does.
Her expression changes the fastest that way too.
When I go home at dawn after a night of drinking.
Then she asks, 'Who paid for it?'
I almost always paid for the drinks.
I paid for the drinks, and I give them taxi money.
She asks me why would I drink when it wastes money, health and time.
That's when I go to an ATM at a convenience store.
And it has to be cash. I have a bundle of 50,000 won bills.
'Hey, this is for you,' I tell her.
At the door?
'If you do this ever again, I might break your legs!' and takes the cash.
[Was my wife this quick?]
Talking to money.
- It does happen a lot. - Then she makes soup for me.
What lies do you tell her so that you can drink?
So I... She might get really angry if I say this.
Three days ago, I was rehearsing for a play.
She sent me a text message. I got a text message.
'Fake Viagra pills...'
[What?!]
'There are many fake Viagra pills, it can be dangerous if you take those.'
She sent me this text message.
So I was thinking, 'Why is she talking about Viagra all of a sudden?'
And she wrote...
'I saw two pills on your desk.'
'I see that one pill has been taken,' she wrote me.
[What's the truth behind this mysterious incident?]
Since she saw them on my desk, she wanted to what happened to them.
- One could become suspicious. - That's true.
I thought I shouldn't talk about it via texting so I called her.
I told her that a painter I know.
He made a type of viagra using technology only known in Korea.
The patent for it expired now. Many companies in the country are selling their own.
My friend gave me two pills for it.
He took one for himself, and he gave me the other.
But she thought I took the pill instead.
[Makes sense why she was suspicious]
That's what she believed.
But she thought, wait. He said it's been released recently. He went to Daejeon two days ago.
So she came to that conclusion.
Times like this you have to be honest, and it was the truth.
For married men like me...
We are most afraid of women and when lying to them doesn't work at all.
I think there might be another one.
Woman’s infinite imagination.
- That's right. - True.
After noticing the pack was missing a pill, she imagined every possibility based on it.
It's okay to imagine what might have happened but it causes misunderstandings.
Wondering why I might have taken it.
When their husbands come home late
the kids go to bed and so they don't have anything to do.
- Wondering what happened to it. - Jong Shin, what did you do when you were caught
- What do they look like? - Pardon?
You are already taking them?
- I heard about those pills... - When I heard about them...
I thought won't they go bankrupt selling those pills?
I think Dong Yup doesn't know how deep a human's desire can go.
He's shallow and superficial.
Human desire doesn't bottom out even when you dig down thousands of kilometers.
Please give me a fire extinguisher.
[Dong Yup's ears on fire!]
- So red. - Really?
No joke. It looks just like this one.
I mean --
- What do we do? - Seriously, look in a mirror.
[His ears became so shy]
It's because I get so shy when I hear something like this.
No, it just means he's healthy.
[Everyone, Dong Yup is healthy!]
- Please, no more. - What can I do? What can I do when ears get red?
I can't even control it --
When you do his make up, please do his ears too.
[Needs a make up artist just for his ears]
[Cools down his ears]
You know...
How did you get out of the situation?
I mean, what did you tell her?
- About Viagra? - Yes.
I told her the truth as it happened. I said my friend took one.
He gave me the other one to try.
I told her that I put it on my desk because I didn't know where to use it.
She was probably very angry, right?
- Yes, she was. - Maybe because you didn't take the pill?
That's what I mean. That's it.
- That's it. - Wow, of course.
Women scare me. They really do scare me.
- Women are intuitive. - They are a lot more detailed than men.
They are and also very logical.
Personally, I think women are the most beautiful creatures that God created.
[He ends on a positive note so quickly?]
They have both the beauty and the terror in them.
A masterpiece of God.
[The conclusion was beautiful]
I bet you are very witty, Gyu Ri.
- I think you'd catch on well. - I have a very strong sense of intuition.
There are people who do harm to you, right?
People who might have done psychological harm to me.
I don't like to hate on people.
There are times when I do want them to get punished.
And then... that person always...
gets into trouble.
- Something bad happens to them. - Yes.
What was the year that it happened to you?
[Did you cause Gyu Ri to hate you back then?]
- I am sorry, I am sorry. - She was very young back then.
You never wanted something bad happening to me in your elementary school days, right?
It was when you were a student.
I got scared after that so I don't hate anyone anymore.
- Why were you looking at me? - Pardon?
It was only for a split second, you saw it?
[Let's not become like a monster. Let's be nice]
When you get caught lying about things you thought she wouldn't know.
[First place for people under twenties]
[First place for people in their twenties]
[First place for people in their thirties]
Wow, he got three of them.
Think about it, right?
Ladies, between your teens and thirties, men want to play and party.
We'll come back to you if you just would let us do our thing.
But ladies get super sensitive about it.
That's okay but when you keep asking and interrogating --
Just let it go.
It's not that we're super sensitive about it.
It's just that you leave small trails of evidence.
We are just apt at catching that.
Ah, we do?
Yes, so, if you want to lie, you should make sure you won't get caught.
Sometimes when you call us, and we hear music at a bar.
If you put your phone against a cushion, then we can't hear it.
- When you use a cushion -- - And at the same time
I knew what you're saying because I lie so often.
Doing that spoils the mood.
Say I am drinking with Dong Yup.
If I go like this there, this definitely spoils the mood.
That's why we don't do that.
I say, 'Why don't you go home?'
[They say it takes husbands to know how a husband feels...]
If you were to answer the phone like this, it seems like you're whipped...
[Ah! Thou art a weak man!]
It totally spoils the mood.
The most important thing for men is...
when we have to lose face in front of others.
It's all right when it's just the two of us but --
But times have changed so people like to see men being nice to their wives.
That is true but when we are drinking...
Even if she are upset, she might ask quietly, 'Where are you? Hurry home.'
'Where are you?'
Then everyone can hear.
[That's the decibel that's so loud and clear.]
I wonder how much you lied to make her so angry like that.
I'm worried she might get angry if I tell her that I am drinking --
She would be. 'I am getting angry!'
That's why I don't tell her the truth.
Doesn't that just make them angrier?
Maybe it's because I am not married yet.
Shouldn't you first put your wife's mind at ease and...
[Contact the headquarter...]
[A public enemy of husbands is here...]
Shouldn't you first put your wife's mind at ease...
That's right.
- It's because I'm single -- - So this is how you want to play it?
All of a sudden he says...
I've been single for three years now.
- They always ask you who you're drinking with. - They always do.
For some reason I say, 'Just Dong Yup, Bum Soo and Eung Soo...'
I don't say Hee Sun and Gyu Ri are here. For some reason, I don't say that to her.
'I hear women's voices.'
'Yes, Hee Sun, Kim Hee Sun.' I always use their full name.
I pretend we aren't close.
'You know, it's that girl.' I'm glad you didn't say that to her.
You know that one who was in 'Faith?'
I am 'that one.'
[Husbands can totally relate.]
- But -- - Pretending we aren't friends.
But I think this is the woman's fault.
[What... it's the woman's fault?]
- Women make men lie. - Ah, but --
- Why? - I mean...
Early in our marriage
- Tae Woo, do you really have to go that far? - It's not that...
I told her the truth. I told her where I was and who I am drinking with.
I thought she would be happy to hear the truth.
- If you tell her everything? - And she...
- She was waiting for me four in the morning. - They do that.
She was staring at me as if to say, 'Get out.'
I was innocent, and all I did was drinking with my buddies.
It kept happening so I found myself lying to her about it.
But you were talking about saving face.
I think what it means to save face is not feeling ashamed of loving your woman.
That's a saying that women made up.
[The war has begun!]
Right, right, right. You can't just hug your woman on a subway train, you know.
You know I could've said something cool instead of being realistic.
But in reality... Isn't that true, Eung Soo?
Oh, it's getting hot in here.
Here, wipe your sweat.
[Eung Soo and Tae Woo are on the same team!]
It's been piling up for him.
- Tae Woo, how long have you been married? - It's been two years.
- It's two years so -- - It goes on like this for one, three, nine years.
You know what irritates women.
Just don't do things like that.
- You know what not to do. - How can you not when you are in love?
For me, I feel at ease about Hwasin.
She knows I am working with Dong Yup.
She expects me to get drunk on the day of filming.
'Why isn't he home already? Ah, he works with Dong Yup.'
- I love things like that. - So when the filming is done...
Once we go to a bar to drink after dinner she texts me...
- 'Sweetie, is it over?' - 'Yes, it just ended.'
[Husbands can relate 100%]
[Doing his best to buy a little more time away]
So she thinks I finished filming just then.
And it gives me another hour to drink.
When I drank about 2000 mL of beer
2000 shots is easy to tell.
How can you go home after drinking only that much?
2500 mL?
That's when I didn't say that I had beer.
But I have to make sure she doesn't smell it.
As soon as I get home, I brush my teeth, and sleep a bit further away from her.
There's a way to cover up. When you drink about 2000 mL
go to a convenient store and buy canned beer.
Drink it as you walk in.
[Oh my God, what great idea!]
[You have opened a new path for husbands!]
Make her think you drank only one can.
[The latest technique so won't have to hide the smell!]
When you walk in, pretend you're angry, 'The filming today was so...'
Aren't you spilling the beans a bit too much?
[Oh!]
If your husband loves to socialize and drink, I think you should be more understanding.
No, once you get married you should refrain from it a little.
I do refrain.
Sitting between you two I feel...
We need someone sitting between them.
I'm scared they might start throwing things.
He still has the spirit alive, being married only for two years.
He is resisting to surrender.
I think there will be a continuous war of nerves between married men and Hee Sun.
I think her war of nerves against Tae Woo will continue for the rest of the day.
No, I think he'll be playing with his kids in a sandbox a year from now.
[His resistance won't last long]
I guarantee it.
He'll be playing a game of pretend with his kids in a sandbox.
Of course, I can do that... since it's about teaching your kids.
As a person of impartiality...
- As someone who's single -- - Also, his face looks impartial as well.
He's androgynous.
In conclusion...
when I look at how married men behave, they are very shallow.
That's right.
They are very shallow in how they try to get away with things.
From a woman's perspective, they already know what men are up to.
I think women just let it go a lot of times.
Gyu Ri, this was what you were talking about.
When I hear him say that, I think, 'I hope he marries someone and experiences it for himself.'
I find myself thinking that way.
This was what you were talking about.
Tae Woo, we could call you a newly wed, right?
- Yes, I heard your wife is pregnant -- - Yes.
- It's our second child. - Your second child?
The question for today is, 'When your wife looks scarier than a monster.'
We are asked to look at our wife or girlfriend in a negative light --
It's not like that.
I would like to tell you when I was in awe of her.
- When you were in awe of her. - It's very descriptive.
I think there is a difference between a wife and a mother.
My daughter weighs about 12 kilograms.
- How old is she? - She's 11 months old.
[Startled!]
She is a very healthy child!
She's very tall as well.
I hear a five year old should be about 11 kilograms.
- Ah, really? - About four year olds.
Wow, that's amazing.
Because she became pregnant right away, she seemed very stressed.
So I told her to go out.
I said to meet her friends and get some fresh air too.
I told her I'll take care of the baby.
I wasn't working that day.
She went out at 11 in the morning and came back seven in the evening.
I babysat for eight hours.
- It's so hard to babysit. - Oh...
On my days off, I would like to have snacks.
I just love to catch up on the latest movies.
So I was doing just that.
That's when 'Expendables 2' by Sylvester Stallone came out on DVD.
I've always wanted to watch it, but I didn't get to watch in theaters.
I thought, 'Let's watch this.' I pushed play.
I started watching it after the baby was taking a nap.
She woke up so I bought her out to the living room.
After I bought her out, I turned it off, right?
I turned it off and turned on a kid's channel with my daughter sitting beside me.
We were watching it together.
After two hours of it, you start crying.
I only watched 20 minutes of it.
She got bored of it very quickly.
She was crawling around that time.
She crawled towards the TV, touching things, ripping things. Putting things in her mouth.
I had her sit beside me.
She crawls away. Then I have her sit beside me, and this repeated endlessly.
So I thought if I tie her up with a belt or something...
Honestly, that was what I was thinking.
- There actually is a bag that -- - It has a long cord.
It wasn't working so...
It's all right as long as she doesn't go where it isn't dangerous.
So I looked around in my house.
I found things that were heavy and tall.
I used them and created a square ring.
Everyone thinks the same way.
Why didn't you put down newspaper for her as well?
So that she won't climb over it. And I spread a blanket out for her.
But because she couldn't crawl out...
- She started crying. - It was very irritating for her.
So I put them away.
If you let them cry a little more, they go to sleep.
You know, I...
I couldn't take my eyes off her even once.
She was mouthing everything.
That's why they chose to work in the field all day rather than babysit.
I told my wife to go out like a cool guy, right?
About five in the afternoon, I sent her a text.
'Where are you?'
[A little embarrassed to admit he's stressed out]
'She keeps crying.'
- But the baby wasn't crying. - It was a lie.
But it's hard work.
After that, she came back home at about seven in the evening.
I let my wife take care of the baby and I took a hot shower.
I laid down on the bed and went to sleep immediately.
That's when I felt total awe for mothers.
'When I recognize the power of maternal affection.'
[Out of ranking]
- No, it's out of ranking. - So I have to talk about something bad.
[Well, you don't have to...]
It's not like I didn't know what to say.
Answers that are kind, beautiful or warm aren't in the ranking.
What has the world come to?
I have a question for dads.
It's a question based on my experience...
Your wife is at home.
Let's say your baby started eating solid foods.
You smell shit from somewhere.
Your baby has pooped in the diaper.
Okay, have you pretended it you didn't smell it. Yes or no?
Men pretend they didn't smell it 100% of the time.
We pretend we didn't smell and we send them...
- So I won't have to change the diaper. - You send the baby over to her?
'Baby wants you!'
It smells good.
I couldn't get used to it.
Once they start eating solid food --
It smells like adult poop.
And when they have trouble digesting it, diapers get heavy and wet.
Dads plug their noses like this at least once.
When I was massaging his bottom and said, 'Oh, you peed.'
Just before changing the diaper, sometimes baby start peeing.
When it happens, it gets totally out of control.
- You have to block it. - Yes, like this.
But at least you saved a diaper.
[Eung Soo is so frugal]
At least he just went.
[A notorious miser, Mr. Eung Soo]
Mr. Miser.
Gyu Ri, give it try.
When they eat so much it scares you.
'How could a woman eat that much?'
A gourmand?
There is always room for dessert, you know.
I think enjoying food might look pretty but --
How much do you eat, Gyu Ri?
Before I debuted, I went to pizza places with buy one get one free.
- One plus one. - Yes.
I ate two of them by myself.
- Really, really? - Two pizzas?
Seriously, leaving just three or four pieces, I finished it by myself.
Women are good at eating pizza. But men are like...
- Women have more room for pizza. - Oh, pizza.
Room for pizza.
After your meal, you still have room for dessert, waffles and brownies.
Yes, yes.
[Women have the tummy room for every kind of dish!]
Friends and I went to eat stir-fried chicken ribs.
They are cheap and delicious.
After ordering stir-fried chicken ribs, we added more noodles, rice cakes, and sweet potatoes.
For men in the group, it was a full meal for them.
But the women were like, 'We need more cheese and make it into fried-riced.
So we did.
We were talking about what to do since we had a good meal.
We decided to go to a cafe, and we went there and the we had more.
We had cake, ice cream, brownie and macchiato.
We ordered ice slurry, and we were having fun talking.
Men were wondering how we could eat so much more because they were full.
But since we are drinking diet coke, it'll help with weight management.
Diet coke.
After all that, they order diet coke.
Can't believe it.
They felt a little guilt after all that.
'When she eats so much as if she's a monster.'
[14h place]
That is something scary but
there is a lady I know who eats just so much of every dish.
Whatever is in front of her, she doesn't stop eating them.
She eats tremendous amounts of meat.
She eats more rice and moves onto more.
So I thought, 'Lee Young Ja is just amazing.'
[Absolute master!]
On top of that, Young Ja is thick-boned as well.
- Oh, thick-boned. - Is she good at soccer too?
I don't know about that but
I think she will certainly beat you in a fist fight.
If it was for real.
I bow out of the fight.
[Kim Bum Soo loses again...]
As I told you earlier, when it comes to competing with women...
I can't measure up to them physically or in any other area, you know?
So one day I decided to be a true bad boy.
I once trained three years for it too.
- 'Bad boy training.' - Yes, bad boy training.
[What's 'bad boy training?']
On our first date, we wanted to watch a movie together.
I deliberately got there a little late.
- To become a bad boy? - To become a bad boy.
On purpose?
On purpose and I pretended that I got caught in the traffic.
I told her... and you need to say it bluntly too.
Not, 'Sorry, I'll be late.'
- 'It's rush hour.' - Oh, that's naughty.
'I think I'll be about ten or fifteen minutes late.'
'Get some popcorn for me.'
[I won't lose to a woman this time!]
'Get some popcorn for me!'
'Make it a combo. Buy it for me.'
Nachos too?
I said it as bluntly as I could but she said
'I don't want to!'
He's in trouble because they didn't prepare him for that.
That's all they taught?
- From that moment, I was... - Mental collapse.
But you have to stay in character, right?
'It doesn't cost that much to buy a popcorn combo for me.'
- She probably thought you were cheap. - That's what I mean.
[Changed from a bad boy to a cheapskate?]
[He got the wrong kind of bad boy training]
He thought it was because of money.
Then she got upset with me.
She was popular among my friends and known for being chic.
- You were too reckless. - I was reckless with her.
Then she threw it right back at me.
- It bounced back. - Yes.
Based on your record, you've never won against women.
That is true...
[Mr. Kim Bum Soo loses again...]
I have an idea...
Oh, what is it?
Because of very wide social network
she knows everything about what I do and when I do it.
Truth is, this is based on personal experience.
[Based on personal experience]
You know I went out with her before we got married, right?
So we were going out.
Because I am a professional singer
I probably would have dated other celebrities, right?
Sometimes, you see that on TV, right?
At home, I like to sit on the floor.
My wife was sitting on the sofa. I was sitting on the floor leaning on the sofa.
When I was going through the channels
I would sometimes see her on TV.
At times like that, I feel something.
I was worried she might notice if I change the channel too quickly.
You shouldn't do that.
I was pretending I was watching TV.
After I changed the channel...
one time... she told me...
'Why did he date her?'
[Shivers!]
[Scary just listening to the story!]
I heard it from behind me.
That's the first time she said that.
You break out in a sweat.
But I didn't know how to react.
But you didn't know she knew, right?
That's right.
So I had to say something.
So I...
- I said, 'What are you talking about?' - Pretended you didn't know her.
'What are you saying?' That's what I said.
- Then she stood up -- - That looks even more strange.
Can you imagine how flustered I was?
You would feel that way.
'Is my wife friends with her?' I thought.
That could be.
On her way to kitchen
she wasn't evening replying directly to me.
She would just say a few words.
'It's nothing.' Then she went.
I was so scared by that.
I felt that her social network is bigger than mine.
How did she do it?
How did she know?
I'll do this one.
'When she somehow make me confess the lies that I told her.'
- She leads the conversation to do that. - Asking subtle leading questions.
I learned something new today.
When you confess it, she goes, 'See, what I knew this.'
Makes you tell the truth?
I feel as if I am listening to stories from a completely different world.
This doesn't want to make you get married, right?
I realize that I am so fortunate.
Hearing the story about 'shit diapers,' I thought, I just need to cover myself well.
This makes me think a lot about it.
Think about what if your little child sings better than you one day.
We never talked about any of that today.
That's what I mean. Super moms weren't even in the ranking.
There weren't any warm stories, right?
How did life get so depressing?
'When she makes me confess my wrong doings.'
[First place for people in their fifties]
When she already knows what I did wrong.
And she prompts me until I finally confess it myself.
People in that age range know --
They want to teach them a lesson.
She doesn't confront you about it right away, but after she bottles it in for a while.
- One at a time. - It's around that time for me.
- So you can relate. - Yes I can.
- Do you feel it? - Yes I do.
She knows that you're lying too.
She even knows that you are going to confess it two minutes and thirty seconds later.
After two minutes and twenty seven seconds, she says...
'You went there, right?'
But I think --
I wonder how she feels when she gets the answer she wants.
When he's lying, I let him lie even when I know he's lying.
I want to see how he lies.
You look for the pattern in how he lies, right?
In the beginning, I'm like...
'Oh really? I see...' When he lies again
I call him on the lie and the cover up.
The last one too.
'I knew you were lying, but I let it go.'
- 'You were lying just as you are lying right now.' - Yeah, that's it.
'Where were you last night?'
'I participated in a wake for my friend.' But I see a paper wrist band on him.
Ah, he's an amateur.
It was a wrist band for a dance club.
Even you wear a long shirt, you see can through it.
You can kind of see it through the shirt.
I think he tried to take it off.
He tried anyway being under the influence of alcohol.
[Why couldn't he rip it off?]
I noticed that the band was a little stretched.
There are wrist bands from Kids' Clubs that are hard to rip off, right?
They are easy to rip off.
I noticed that it was stretched.
When I saw that I thought
'Ah... at least he tried to rip it off.'
[That makes them more lovable]
I live amongst three women who are like that.
But for some reason, my two daughters take their mom's side.
[Daughters take their mom's side?]
My dad never felt at ease living with my mom either.
[I am sure you'll get through it...]
He said that in a very serious tone.
My dad never felt ease living with my mom either.
[Feeling the pain]
I have two older sisters as well.
They scare me.
Ah, that's right.
So I think...
Most people's incomes are fixed, right?
- Yes, yes! - Being nagged about your wage?
Yes, it is.
Okay, wait a minute.
- Is it okay if I say it? - Of course.
'If we are to live the rest of our lives happy, we need to be frugal.'
Using this as an excuse, she uses a lot of bullying and violence.
Bullying and violence?
Have you been nagged a lot about your income?
- Every day. Every day. - What does she say?
She uses our children.
She talks about the kids.
She needs to buy them clothes and have them take lessons.
She keeps comparing them to other kids.
When you don't get cast, you don't get any income, right?
Yes, yes.
Do you give her money for monthly living expenses?
Yes, I deposit into her account on the tenth day of every month.
About how much?
Quite a bit.
- Really? - Yes.
Has she ever asked that you give her more money?
Always. So she always --
You might think it's quite a lot, but she might not agree.
Do you check her credit card expenditure history?
Do you check how you spent her money?
About three to four years ago... I told her to bring me a copy of her debit card use.
But she wouldn't.
She wouldn't.
She wrote it down on a piece of paper for me instead.
I told her not to write it. I told her just to bring the record.
[It's starting to sound like...]
That's why we fought every day I gave her allowance.
The writer wants to change the theme.
'When your husband looks like a monster.'
Is there anything that you own that's under your wife's name?
Everything. Vehicles, house and everything.
She would kill me if I didn't give it to her.
[He's once again a charming husband!]
Everything is under her name.
Let's check your answer.
'Nagging you to death about money.'
Nagging about money. Nagging about money.
[First place for people in their forties]
I think... in my opinion...
It's for people in their forties, right?
Many kids need money for various lessons.
For instance, the money is tight paying for lessons and groceries.
It would help if you're husband went out and drank less.
She might be able to afford more things.
Women always think that way.
What would happen to your husband when he can't even go drink?
But if my husband drank a little less often...
that money could go to buying nice things for the kids.
Show us what you mean.
I can just sense it. You're lying to me, right?
Tell me when, why, where, who, how and what you were doing last night.
For men in their twenties and thirties, this is the scariest moment.
Show me your love with money. Money, money, money.
Money, money monster.
For men in their fifties.
[Staring]
It's really scary when they look at you like this.
Okay, I am sorry.
[An apology is induced just by looking at her face]
- Okay, show us. - The next problem.
Show us the problem. Show us.
[Recognizing a problem]
[Next location is a Chinese restaurant]
What is this? He's the one who's waiting for me.
It's been over ten minutes already. Does he look down on us or what?
Dad, he said he's late because of traffic. Let's wait a little longer, okay?
Hey, we shouldn't just let this go.
We should knock the wind right out of him.
[On their first meeting?]
[And now]
They are here.
[Groom's family is late]
[Fireworks are about to start]
Oh, it seems we are a little late.
Oh, it's not just a little. You are very late.
[The tension between them heightens]
Ah, are we?
But what can you do when it's rush hour?
It's not like I can pave my own road here.
If you're going to be late, you should at least try to pave the road.
- Oh, is that how... how you want to -- - Father...
- Please have a seat. - Please have a seat.
It's a close one.
Since we are meeting each other's families
perhaps we should decide on a wedding date.
Since Hee Sun is somewhat aged.
What has age got to do with anything?
Given Hee Sun is as beautiful as she is.
Because she is so beautiful she chose a man who looks like that.
I am a little bothered that she didn't give it any consideration.
My son doesn't look so bad no matter who he's with.
What time is it, my son?
It's ten after ten.
Oh so cute.
More I look at him, the more I adore him.
Dad, you must be hungry. How about eating something?
Oh, let's do that.
[Rolling]
What an ignorant family.
I hear the food is very delicious here.
[Rolling]
Here Hee Sun, have lots.
He has no class.
- Sir, where should I put this one? - You can put that here.
- Young man, here. - Yes.
Look, young man.
- I said put it here. - Four eyes, here.
- You can put that here. - You can put that here.
- Why all this over food? - I already asked him first.
And so did I.
Oh come on.
Its head is pointing my way.
Its genitalia pointing this way.
The head is at the top.
Without a genitalia, we cannot survive!
Sir, actually, this is its genitalia.
Please stop this!
Meeting a stranger for the first time.
If you take it easy, they just might walk all over you.
The most important thing when you meet a stranger is to make a strong impression.
How do you do it?
He's a great actor.
There really was a war of nerves between the two of them.
Eung Soo has been an actor longer than Dong Yup but
Dong Yup has done skits longer than Eung Soo.
None of them wanted to play the underdog.
No, no, he is someone I admire so much.
You said you like him but you don't say he's a great actor.
He is a good actor.
Except for skits, he's the best.
[Oh, it's a close one]
[A tied game! Both of you were great]
How to get the upper hand when meeting someone for the first time.
Let's say you two are the top actresses for a TV drama.
You two meet at the first read-through.
Could there be two of us at the top?
[There can be only one top']
There are ways you guys can make the stronger impression.
For Kim Tae Woo, he's very tall, right?
He's a tall guy.
Bum Soo has the face.
If he was in my class, I don't think I would ever talk to him.
I am the top dog until I stand up.
[Everyone is afraid of him when he's sitting?]
[He has that bully's look]
You know, I like how he looks.
I look a lot milder because of these glasses.
In high school, all I needed to do was just to look at them.
Like this.
Call my name.
- Bum Soo. - What's that?
[Fierce stare!]
- If you look at them like this -- - Looks like he is a boxer.
The moment I realized that the person who gets angry loses is...
I was in this TV program recently right?
For the ugliest person in TV industry.
They laugh whenever I mention it.
I watched it.
I watched the show when it aired.
Everyone tells me that I was so funny.
I wasn't trying to be funny. I was being very angry.
I looked very upset.
'Why did they call me? I don't belong here.'
I noticed that I was feeling angry.
Because of that, I was high up in the rankings.
Looking the way you do and getting angry makes you look worse.
- So, I -- - You didn't know what it was for?
They said I had to be there. That I was the main attention.
I like it when someone praises me.
I thought they would have a stage set up, and they would highlight my singing ability.
When I noticed the competitors
I couldn't believe my eyes.
They were making fun of how I look, so I felt so angry.
I couldn't hide it either.
But the experts among the group, like Cho Jung Chi, did not get angry at all.
He was maintaining his calm.
- Cho Jung Chi had nothing to lose. - No.
But I was shouting and yelling.
[Jung Chi is at ease!]
When I saw the way he maintained his calm--
Getting mad is losing.
You lose if you lose your temper.
- You lost to Cho Jung Chi as well? - Pardon?
- You lost to him too? - Let's get one thing straight.
There was a nationwide survey, wasn't there?
Cho Jung Chi took first place.
How about you?
But he received so many votes.
I got the second most votes, and Defcon got third.
It took more than both of our votes combined to beat him.
So the ugliest man was Cho Jung Chi?
[I look better, don't I?]
- Let's check the answer! - 'Maintaining your calm--'
[Out of ranking]
Now that I look at you, you could've won first place.
[Dignity of Bum Soo!]
I see...
[How to show up a person]
Don't they say you look fierce, Eung Soo?
They do.
Are you that way in real life?
I'm not on the weak side.
When people meet me, they think, 'Kim Eung Soo is an intense guy.'
Most people know that about me already.
They show that to me.
But foreigners don't know that about me, you know.
They probably don't think you are an intense guy, Eung Soo.
It was last year.
I was in a play.
From Korea, myself and Cha Seung Won were in it.
From Japan, Cho Nan Gang and other Japanese actors and actresses were in it.
When I was younger, I studied abroad in Japan.
- Oh? - He went to Japan.
- Yes, he studied in Japan. - Since I knew Japan.
But I never thought I would ever be in a play with him.
We went over to Japan to do a read-through with them.
I suggested that we go eat at a Korean restaurant. So we went.
No matter how much Cho Nan Gang loves Korea...
I was certain he couldn't eat this one food.
Now it starts.
- It's interesting. - Battle through food.
They don't sell it in Tokyo, but it was on the menu.
They sold live small octopus.
[Japanese have a difficult time eating it alive]
'I am sure you can't eat this alive.'
I ordered one.
And it was alive like this?
When I ordered live small octopus
Cha Seung Won poked me and said...
'Eung Soo, isn't this going too far?'
I said, 'Wait and see. Wait and see.'
I watched that expression so many times on TV.
[Just like the way it was in TV dramas]
They put it in the center of the table. It was alive and moving.
Try some.
[It has begun!]
He said in Japanese, 'Thank you very much.'
He sighed and looked over to his manager.
When his manger and I made eye contact, he was looking at me like this.
He wanted to know why would I have him eat something like that.
I hesitated a bit, but he ate it.
[Cho Nan Gang started eating a live small octopus!]
And then, he was like, 'It's delicious.'
It didn't work.
Then he ordered three more of it.
And it was his first timing eating it?
So I asked him...
'Is this the first time you eat this?'
I tried live small octopus a couple of times but
he said he feels live small octopus in Korea are the most difficult to eat.
[Live small octopus is the most difficult food to eat for foreigners]
So I had to pay for his dinner too!
Oh, you did?
- He was in a similar situation as I was in. - That is right.
I tried to get the best of him through food but failed.
It's funny. It's funny.
[Get the best of someone using food]
[Not in ranking]
I think this is my first wrong answer.
[Has someone got the best of him?]
Then how else do you do it?
I think that timing is the most important thing.
I sensed it when I was doing a concert last December with Park Jung Hyun.
Kim Bum Soo and Park Jung Hyun are two of the best singers in the country.
[The best singers that don't need an introduction]
[Park Jung Hyun & Kim Bum Soo]
It was a concert that so many people were anticipating.
They had high expectations for it as well.
So we wanted to do something that's even more entertaining.
- So we agreed to do a singing battle on stage. - Doing a battle in the middle of a concert?
- Oh, really? - We decided to do an ad-lib battle.
But in reality, everything was scripted.
If we don't do that, it just won't work.
Things could get awkward later.
Ab-libbing shouldn't have structure.
But we did it just as we scripted it.
Park Jung Hyun is very humble.
I am like that too, and we're both not competitive.
Yeah, she's like that.
She's not competitive at all.
She congratulates a person when they take first place.
There is song titled 'Hit the road Jack' by Ray Charles.
Oh my God.
Then I say, 'Everyone I know you're looking forward to our freestyle singing battle.'
'Don't you think I'll be better?'
[Scream!]
Then she says, 'What do you mean? Don't you think I'll be better?'
[Scream!]
I was supposed to start it off first.
But I noticed that they applauded for Jung Hyun so much louder.
You were a little taken aback by that, right?
He already lost, again.
There were about 10,000 of them in the audience.
'Don't you think I am better?'
Jung Hyun asked, 'Don't you think I am better?'
I felt nervous about it.
- So I -- - You didn't do as scripted.
I was supposed to follow the script, right?
I would do it like this and then Park Jung Hyun was supposed to go...
Like this, it was supposed to gradually increase.
But I went...
[Bum Soo did it like this instead...]
[Bum Soo went to the highest note in the first round!]
Oh my gosh.
Park Jung Hyun was probably like this.
[She probably felt panic]
I needed to stay my ground.
And Jung Hyun responded to it like this.
[Bum Soo, I need to gain some ground too!]
She went to the highest note.
But you have to hit an even higher note on the next round.
You have to go.
It must've been so entertaining for the audience.
It would've been great if Tae Woo was on the stage with them.
You know how competitive he is, right?
We thought we weren't competitive, but deep down we were.
By the end of it, Park Jung Hyun sounded like
a dolphin hitting an extremely high note.
She went to 16 beats per bar and on to 24 beats per bar.
- What do you mean by that? - Show us how you do it.
Eight beats per bar sound like this.
Like that. But if you do 16 beats per bar.
- Like this, right? - Ah...
Then you move onto 24 beats per bar.
[Going all the way!]
At the end, you've got to...
- Yodel. - 64 beats per bar.
[Almost the realm of gods]
I got so flustered I forgot what I should do next.
I didn't know what to do and was just standing there.
In the end... the same thing.
So I ended up losing again.
- Of course you did. - That always happens.
I wonder what happened in that stand by room after.
You broke the agreement first.
Right, right.
Something unexpected happened.
She said, 'I think you were in a good condition.'
Saying that to the person who lost the battle.
A total defeat.
'What do you mean? They went crazy when you did your 24 beats per bar.'
'No, that's nothing. No, I think you did really well today.'
'Let's do even better tomorrow.'
But that was my best effort.
[Mr. Losing Again, Cheers!]
- Why do you always lose to a woman, Bum Soo? - I don't know why that is.
I think I am like that with women.
A weak man you won't find anywhere else, Kim Bum Soo.
[A vulnerable man that you won't find anywhere else, Kim Bum Soo]
Since you are a professional singer, don't you want to best your audience too?
Of course...
You know how they scream when you prolong singing a high note.
You know about that --
- In a song titled 'A day --' - Oh, I love that song so much.
There is a part that goes like this.
After an interlude.
[A prolonged high note after an interlude]
[So cool]
[Checking their reaction]
[If the audience responds with enthusiasm]
[Goes to the highest note!]
[So cool, Bum Soo!]
After a while I learned how not to use up all the air in the beginning.
You use only a little.
I use a lot of air when they start applauding.
Then I need to hold that note at least five to six more seconds.
People tend to come up with their own technique.
In my case...
I copied musicians from overseas very often.
I learned from Michael Jackson.
Let me tell you how powerful his spirit is when he's performing on stage.
With 50,000 in the audience, he jumps onto the stage.
And then, he stays still!
He stays still for six minutes!
For six minutes, he stays still with his sunglasses on.
And 50,000 people in the audience keep on screaming.
[Audience goes crazy!]
So confident.
What's even more surprising...
he turns and looks to his side.
- He does just that. - Then, that side goes --
Then, 30,000 on that side screams.
[All he did was look at them!]
This really is a war of nerves.
He has spoiled so many musicians in the world.
So... So...
I thought I should do what he did.
People like Kim Tae Woo become influenced by that.
So I did.
I entered like this.
With the lights on me like this.
They were screaming loud in the beginning.
And I continued to stay still.
[I will never move!]
I couldn't do five minutes of it instead I went for three minutes.
I noticed their screams were getting quieter.
After about a minute...
[Crowd wonders what he is doing]
- So I -- - 'I want my money back!
I should've done something to make a smooth recovery.
But I started to feel timid.
So I planned to do this.
I did this and...
I signaled the band master with my finger.
[Hurry up and start the music!]
So I stopped doing that.
For anyone, the most important thing is finances.
[Finances are the most important thing for anyone?]
People like to talk about finances.
No matter what they do for a living.
I am a member of Samsung Economics Research Institute.
- Really? - I get a lot of emails from them.
I've read something like this.
Humanity used to dig 30 centimeters into the ground to survive.
Currently, humanity digs down 300 meters to get the oils so that we can live.
Then, what do we dig in the future?
Dig and win the hearts and minds of people.
The person who wins the hearts of the people will be the leader of the future.
There are amazing essays like that.
I get excited when I read them.
So when you meet people, you get the upper hand by mentioning that.
Talking about what you know.
I talk about everything I know.
Sometimes do you use difficult jargon.
- Sometimes I do. - And they get it when you do.
For example, Adam Smith said this.
Economic theories by Adam Smith are being applied in this part of economic system.
We are not talking about the cyber singer Adam, right?
It's been so long since I heard that name.
Come to think of it a battle of nerves isn't a big deal.
A tug of war, if you will, is to make the other person your ally.
Right.
So it's about earning the interest and the trust of the other person.
It may start like a tug of war but
it opens up a channel of communication between them.
Two teams merge into one.
And whoever won it has to pay for the booze.
[Always ending it after mentioning booze]
What does the Samsung Economics Research Institute tell you about drinking?
It's, 'Don't drink.'
[Such a clear and simple conclusion!]
- Do you pay them a membership fee? - If I had to, I wouldn't have joined.
[Eung Soo has strong values regarding money!]
- It's free, right? - It is.
Their prerequisite is a little picky.
You have to have read certain books on economics.
- Ah, you do? - Of course, of course.
Could you offer some wise words for us today?
A war of nerves is communication between two people.
- So... that's right... - So it's not about beating them.
And the conclusion of that communication is to merge as one unit.
Yes, thanks for your wise words.
All of a sudden, I feel like the preacher of an underground church.
[They were good words!]
Okay, let's check the answer...
This might be wrong... what if they expel me from the membership?
[17th place]
I've co-hosted a radio show with Shin Dong of Super Junior for about a year and a half.
One day a new girl group was the guests on our show.
Usually, when a new girl group or a boy band come on they are eager and willing.
Usually it's a cordial atmosphere, right?
So we also respond to them a positive attitude.
The guests we had that day were beyond the point of being insincere.
- They were... rude. - Rude?
For example, when I asked them a question.
Someone older than me wouldn't have answered it that way.
- 'I am not sure,' like this. - Really?
Yes.
'Oh, what is this?' I thought to myself?
If the show goes well, it's good for them as well, right?
But I thought they were behaving beyond the point of understanding.
- In the beginning -- - Were all four of them like that or?
Ah... I can't say how many of them were in the group.
- I guess there were more than four of them. - Pardon?
[It's a big fish that won't bite]
During a break I asked them, 'Who is the leader in this group?'
I asked them. I used as respectful and tender a tone as possible.
- 'Who is the leader in this group?' - 'Ah, I am the leader.'
So I asked, 'How old are you?' And she was younger than me.
I replied, 'Okay, I see.'
During break, my manager was beside me right?
'Did you do what I asked you to do?' I pretended I was mad at my manager.
- On purpose. - Yes, I did.
The manager knew what was going on and played along with you.
So I pretended as if I was mad at my manager.
The air was somber in the radio booth.
'I have to get this done by tomorrow, and you didn't get it done?'
'How about the video? Forgot about that too?'
'What are you doing?'
I acted as if I was angry at him.
I was being mad at my manager saying he needed to get it done.
When it was about time to get back on air, I said
'Okay, it's all right. I'll talk to you later.'
'Okay, let's get back to it.'
When I said that, they were sitting straight up.
- Right. - They said, 'Ah, yes.'
After that, because I talked to them while making eye contact
they become quite sincere in how they answered my questions.
It's like taking the upper hand by being nice and respectful to them.
Not talking in a sleazy or delinquent tone, right?
I don't care whether I debuted earlier or later than them.
I want to do this for them because I feel bad for them.
- But it's a good way to do it. - You know how to handle things like this, right?
She would've been more like this.
'Who's the leader?'
- 'It's me.' - 'You're the leader?'
[Hee Sun is a leader in the art of gaining the upper hand?]
Let's check the answer!
[First place for people in their thirties]
Yes, it's highest ranked answer.
[First place for people in their forties]
[First place for people in their fifties]
They act extremely kind no matter the situation.
People in their thirties often find themselves in such situations.
They think it's immature to play tug of war with others.
I think it's the age range where extreme kindness could be the most powerful weapon.
When someone in their thirties, forties or fifties talk frivolously, it's very surprising.
[People in their twenties and under: I bluntly say what I like and dislike about them]
'Hee Sun, I am a goddess in my twenties. You are a goddess in your thirties.'
'Who do you think people like better?'
'Gyu Ri. So you were a goddess in your twenties?'
'I am so sorry I didn't recognize that.'
Like that, like that.
'I'll search you on the internet. I'll read the articles about you.'
She said she'll read the articles about her.
How do people in their twenties and under do it?
If they are blunt about it
people older than thirty uses kindness as their leverage.
['Am going to to stand way out? Hu Hu Hu.']
['Hi, I am Mary. I'll become a beautiful singer.']
[Most students dye their hair that color already...]
[Even he is blond...]
If you really want to win over people, being soft can triumph over being hard.
I won't give up.
[Hwasin]
[You've never seen G-Dragon like this!]
Are you watching?
[G-Dragon's power move in dating!]
Not regular stretching.
[Ga Hee uses stretching to charm men?]
This is a little bit in the way.
I once got caught dating two women on the same day.
- 'Gan' Gyung Ho. - Doesn't everyone do that.
'I won't change.'
'Many ways to it.' 'Let go. Let go!'
'It's so annoying.'
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